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Relationship Advice You Should Probably Think Twice About Taking
I’ve been divorced twice, I admit I don’t know anything about how to make “it” work. That doesn’t mean I’ve stopped trying to figure it out.
I listen to a lot of TED talks, and I read a lot of articles online, and alot of romantic novels. I’ve even written one. I read a lot of what you all write here on Medium. I read a lot about the top ten ways to do things, or not do things. I’ve written a few top ten lists myself. But to quote my grandfather, George, “I know a little bit about everything, and a lot about nothing.” So I won’t waste your time pretending that this is an article about how to have a good relationship. I haven’t a clue how to do that. This is an article that is about how I think it might be POSSIBLE to have a good relationship and what I would do if I ever got the opportunity to give it a try again. I guess that I have learned a lot from my mistakes, so unlike Grandpa George, I know a lot about something, and that something is heartache.
I’ve been married twice, I’ve been truly in love at least once, not counting the absolutely perfect love I have for my sons. I had no role models for marriage. My mom and dad split before I was born and though my grandparents, who lived upstairs, were married for 49 years, they were distant and non-conversant about anything to do with how living with another…
